Family Purity

Parshat מצורע is the source for the laws of טהרת המשפחה, Family Purity. Specifically, the Torah defines the separation that must take place between husband and wife each month during the wife’s menstrual period.

The question that is often asked, is why the Rabbis extended this period of separation from seven days to twelve days. Technically, the Torah law dictates only a seven day separation for Nidda, menstrual blood.

The answer to this question comes from the word, “תשוקה” meaning passion. The Rabbis realized that the increased number of days of separation would create greater anticipation and excitement for the time when husband and wife are reunited.

If the laws are followed meticulously, this reunion between husband and wife becomes a monthly “honeymoon.” The system clearly works and strengthens the bond and love between husband and wife. Many non-Jews have marveled at the wisdom and effectiveness of these laws.

There are times when the relationship is Platonic, when husband and wife are best friends. And there are other times when their love is expressed in a physical, passionate, and holy manner.