Aaron’s Silence

The reaction of Aharon upon hearing the tragic news of the death of his two sons, was seen as exemplary. The Torah simply tells us, וידם אהרון, “And Aharon was silent.”

It was an indication that he had great faith in Hashem, and accepted this bitter, Heavenly decree, without questioning.

Aharon also taught us that “silence is golden.” The Rabbis mentioned this point on numerous occasions.

It is found in several places in Pierkei Avot. In one place it says that Rabbi Shimon, son of Rabban Gamliel stated, “All my life I spent a great deal of time among the Rabbis, and did not find anything better than silence.”

It is also written that סיג לחכמה שתיקה, that a fence for wisdom is silence. The sign of a wise man is reflected by his careful choice of words.

He realizes that unnecessary speech could have detrimental effects. It could lead to Lashon Hara, of belittling an undeserving person. This is why the best advise is not to say anything.

When we visit a Shiva house, we are not supposed to initiate a conversation with the mourners. If they speak to us, we answer. Knowing that you are there for them, and that you feel their pain is enough. If you feel you need to talk, you will probably say something foolish.

Abraham Lincoln once said, “Better to remain silent and be thought a fool, than to speak and remove all doubt!”

Foolish people do tend to talk to much for when they do, a great deal of nonsense comes out.

It is always a good idea to keep quiet when you or your spouse are upset. Anything said at that time, will likely make things worse. Wait until you are both calm, which will have a much better chance of making things better.

Aharon taught us the value of silence. He was praised by Hashem and merited being spoken to directly from Him. We would be wise to recognize the value of silence.