Ideal Character

“The Duties of the Heart” is primarily a book that attempts to help an individual develop a strong connection to Hashem. The emphasis is to explain that true contentment in this world comes when one feels a strong bond with the Creator.

The result of building such a bond is translated by the effect it has on the believing person. He will develop an almost ideal or perfect personality. His interaction with others will be received with deep admiration by all of those who come in contact with him.

Such an individual will acquire true humility. Everything he does will be motivated by his sincere desire to act in a way that is pleasing to G-d.

The one possessing this “ideal personality,” will always have a positive and cheerful disposition. He is eager to help others in need, but never seeks recognition or positions of power.

He does not bear a grudge and controls his anger. He does not like asking for favors, but shows gratitude when a kindness is shown to him.

He is always polite and courteous, even when dealing with others that have different opinions than he has.

He is a true and loyal friend. He does not speak harshly against someone who wrongs him. He does not rejoice at the misfortune of others.

He is wise and never complains about his troubles. He is close with those who remember Hashem. He is a friend to devotees of righteousness, faithful towards devotees of truth. He feels the pain of the needy, and shows respect to the poor.

I am not sure how many people that we might know have all of these wonderful personality traits. But it is certainly something that we must strive towards. But we must remember that achieving such a level can only take place when we develop this sacred bond with G-d. This is the עבודת נפש, the work of the soul, that every Jew is obligated to do.