Giving and Taking

This week’s Parsha is תרומה. Rabbi Twerski makes a fascinating observation from the first Pasuk. The Torah says, ויקחו לי תרומה, “And take for Me a donation.” The correct language should have been, “give” Me a תרומה. The Torah is teaching a valuable lesson.

For most people, it is much easier to take, rather than give of themselves or their possessions. However, there are many people that have a problem taking, or asking for help.

Some find it demeaning to ask for assistance. Some jeopardize their health by refusing to get the care that they need.

People who cannot accept help or even advice, show signs of low self esteem. Rav Ovadia of Bartenura made a profound statement. “One who has no mercy on himself, cannot have mercy on others.”

Rav Twerski once thought that a recovering alcoholic would be a great spokesperson to help others be relieved of their addiction. However, when he found out that this woman stayed in her home for three days with no heat, rather than stay with her welcoming neighbor, until heat was fixed, the Rabbi commented.

He told the woman that since she refused her neighbor’s help and suffered needlessly, she was not yet ready to help others.

The Torah teaches the importance of giving, but there are times when receiving may even be more important.