Ideal Relationship

The ideal that was spoken of by the prophet Yechezkel, is that we get to the point where we see the fulfillment of, “You will be My people, and I will be your G-d.

He spoke of a time when there will be an ingathering of the exiles, and we will no longer suffer the humiliation of the nations. Waters of purification will be poured upon us, and we will recognize where we have strayed, and will return to our Jewish roots.

It will become clear that all of man’s pursuits are futile. All of those rainbows that people are chasing end with frustration. There is one primary pursuit that brings an individual that sense of contentment and peace of mind. It can only come when we feel Hashem’s closeness as we diligently worship Him.

We got a glimpse of this during the period of the reign of King Solomon. It was the fifteenth generation after the exodus from Egypt. The number “15” corresponds with the day of the lunar month when there is a full moon.

There was both physical and spiritual wealth for a brief period of time. Solomon’s Temple was one of the great wonders of the world. People served G-d and felt Him close.

We must pray for a permanent return to those days when Jews truly experienced, “You will be My people, and I will be your G-d.

Jewish Survival

The readings connected with Tisha B’Av, are known as “Kinot.” Usually a small pamphlet is handed out to be read both at night and in the morning.

The Kinot is a collection of lamentations depicting the long and bitter exile, suffered by the Jewish people. It speaks of the pogroms and crusades aimed at the Jewish people.

In recent years, a chapter was added describing the horrors of the Holocaust, and most recently a chapter was added in connection with the tragedies of October the seventh.

When one looks back at all of the sufferings of our people at the hands of various enemies, he should be awe struck by the fact that these enemies no longer exist. Yet, the Jewish people have survived.

Rav Yakov Emden once commented that this survival of our people against all odds, is a greater miracle than the splitting of the Red Sea.

The secret of our survival is absolutely connected with our unshakable faith in the Al-mighty, and our strict adherence to the Torah and its laws. What may have been most important is the continued diligence in Torah study.

Despite the conditions and the threat of serious punishment for Torah study and its observance, Jews pushed forward and realized that an abandonment of our tradition, would mean an end to our people.

This should be our focus at this time. We must learn the lessons of history. Our secret weapon of survival is very simple. “Fear G-d and keep the commandments, for this is the essence of man.”

Feeling the Pain of Another Jew

The period of the “nine days,” and Tisha B’Av itself, is a period where we recount all of the suffering of the Jewish people, during our long and bitter exile. As a people, we were humiliated in every way imaginable.

As Jews, we are taught to feel the pain of others. It appears that there is a group in society who are going through constant pain, but are neglected and often do not even know how to cry out for help.

In 2016, a book was written in French and Hebrew by an attorney, Sophie Cohen, titled, “The Predator Spouse.” At the time, she had twenty years of experience dealing with divorce cases where one of the spouses clearly fit the definition of a “Predator Spouse.”

Ms. Cohen outlined this personality disorder known as “narcissism.” She gave numerous examples of case studies with uncanny duplications of how one spouse is capable of completely destroying the other.

This is not done with physical abuse, which is taken more seriously by the police and the courts. We are speaking of a systematic verbal abuse that gnaws away at the victim, where in the end, they lose all sense of self worth, self confidence, and dignity.

The situation is so serious that it often can lead to suicide and mental illness. These predators are found everywhere, and are very cunning and manipulative. They prey on weaker and more naive personalities. I recently heard of a case, where a woman freed herself from a horrible marriage that lasted fifty years. Finally, she is happy and free. Better than late than never.

As we focus on the suffering of our people, we should also focus on the silent sufferers of “Spousal Predators.” We must do all that we can to help these unfortunate individuals free themselves from their personal bondage, and be able to live their lives with dignity and self respect.

Proper Judges

It is interesting to note that in Moshe Rabbeinu’s final address to the nation, he placed the subject of proper judges among the first topics discussed.

It was clear even from the days of Noach that there be proper courts of justice. Without them, society would fall apart. This is why there was such great emphasis by Moshe, to be certain that there be a true system of justice.

People needed to know that if they had a dispute, and they felt that they were treated badly by another individual, they had recourse to know that their grievance could be heard.

It is for this reason that it says that a judge who judges accurately, becomes a partner with Hashem in the creation of the world.

Therefore, Moshe made it clear that judges must be the most upright members of society. They must not take bribes, and they must not fear another human being.

It is shocking to know that the Supreme Court of Israel, has had judges openly admitting to being atheists. The highest court in the land, should be composed of G-d fearing individuals. Their fear of G-d should motivate them to be certain that justice would be served

It is very disheartening to see how the courts are overloaded with cases, and it takes so long for cases to even be heard. Victims of spousal abuse, are not given the priority and support they deserve.

In the time of King Solomon, the courts did consist of the most prominent members of society. The Talmud wrote that even if someone lost his case in court, he would leave in a state of joy, for he knew that true justice was served.

Moshe understood just how important a fair and dignified legal system must be. When we long for the “days of old,” we are also longing for those days when going to court really meant something, and not an exercise of “rolling the dice.”

The Mitzva To Live In Israel

The Alshich commented on Moshe Rabbeinu’s charge to the Jewish people of עלה רש, “Go up and inherit the land.” Some commentators wrote that these two words are the source for the Mitzva to live in Israel.

The Alshich felt that every Jew knows in his soul that there is only

one place where he can truly feel at home. If he is in touch with his spiritual side, he will realize that he can only feel at peace in Israel. It is simply not natural for a Jew to be living anywhere else than the land promised by Hashem to His people.

Forty three years ago I began to have strong feelings that I did not belong in America. I am not sure what spurred it on, as I was a synagogue rabbi at the time in Los Angeles.

I had the feeling that although I was born in the United States, I stopped thinking that America was mine. I now saw myself as a guest that really didn’t belong there. I knew that moving to Israel would give me the peace of mind that I was living according to my ideals.

Despite many difficult years, and many disappointments, I never regretted the decision to come home to the Promised Land. The Alshich believed that these feelings exist in the soul of every Jew. They only need to tap into their spiritual side, to uncover the yearning that Jews have always had throughout history. They needed to come home to the one and only place where they belonged.

Moshe’s Final Days

The Book of Devarim is actually a thirty-seven day farewell address from Moshe Rabbeinu to the Jewish people. It began on Rosh Chodesh Shvat, and continued until his death on the seventh day of Adar.

The Midrash also tells us that Moshe Rabbeinu personally wrote thirteen Torahs during this period. He gave one to each of the tribes, and one was placed on a shelf connected to the Holy Ark.

There is a further lesson to be learned from Moshe’s final days. He was able to rebuke the Jewish people in a manner that they took his words seriously.

The Alshich suggests that he had greater credibility at that time, because he personally defeated the giants, Sichon and Og, and inherited their land.

A further point is that תוכחה, rebuke, given on one’s death bed, has a greater impact than is usual. Moshe Rabbeinu was in perfect health until his 120th birthday, but it was clear to all that he would soon pass away, as did his brother, Aharon, and his sister, Miriam, earlier that year.

His message was simple and clear. The Jewish people would remain strong as a nation, if they stayed close to Hashem by studying His Torah and doing acts of kindness.

Moshe’s final days were quite remarkable. But what else could we expect from the greatest man who ever lived!

Death of High Priest

The Abarbanel gives a beautiful explanation as to why the accidental murderer is allowed to leave the City of Refuge upon the death of the Kohein Hagadol.

The High Priest was the spiritual leader of the Jewish people. He was the central figure each Yom Kippur who brought about atonement for the Jewish people. Those who followed the path of Aharon, were greatly loved and admired.

When the Kohein Hagadol passed away, it was devastating news for the entire Jewish people. It also shook up the ג׳ואל הדם, the redeemer of blood. He was permitted to kill the one being protected by the City of Refuge, if he ever left the City of Refuge. The killer did not kill his brother intentionally, but was careless, nonetheless.

The realization that death was inevitable for all human beings, including the High Priest, created an awakening for all.

This collective trauma, allowed the avenger of blood to calm down. He no longer felt the urgency to avenge his brother’s death. He realized that eventually, everyone would die.

This change in attitude due to the death of the Kohein Hagadol, allowed the accidental murderer to leave the City of Refuge. He was no longer in danger, and he could continue living life as a free man.

Driving Out The Nations

Moshe Rabbeinu gives a serious warning to the Jewish people that they must not be foolish and they must realize the importance of driving out the nations that were inhabiting the land.

He tells them that if they do no drive them out, and inherit their land, they will be as “thorns in your eyes and a pain in your side.” You must not have compassion towards them, for allowing them to live among you, will cause you great grief.

Moshe is really trying to explain that misplaced compassion can be dangerous. If we are not tough with our enemies, they will see our kindness as weakness, and they will take advantage of it.

This is why in several places it is written that destroying our enemies is actually a merciful act. The elimination of evil makes the world a better place.

This lesson was learned in a most painful way on October the seventh. Many of the victims of the nearby Kibbutzim had bent over backwards to try to help the residents of Gaza. They used information about where they lived and their general moving about, against them during the massacre.

Many couldn’t believe how these same people could turn against them, and act like brutal savages. Had they taken Moshe’s warning more seriously, perhaps many lives could have been saved.

Misplaced compassion can be very dangerous as the undeserving recipient of such compassion, does not appreciate these gestures. It makes them even more angry and they become the predators that Moshe warned us about.

Hashem gave us a beautiful land. If we want to keep it, we must drive out those who wish to take our land from us.

Travels of the Jewish People

In Parshat Masei, Moshe Rabbeinu recounts the numerous journeys of the Jewish people. When he referred to a place where they had sinned, it was alluded to by way of רמז, hinting.

This was said during the last week’s of Moshe’s life, just before they had reached their long awaited destination, of entering the Promised Land.

Moshe wanted the people to remember the hardships that were involved at getting to that point. They tested Hashem with their rebelliousness on ten different occasions. Their forty years in the desert actually decreased their population rather than increase it. The various plagues and punishments, prevented the growth in population.

We see this same phenomenon in America today. Because of the plague of intermarriage and assimilation, the number of Jews in America, still hovers at around six million Jews, after at least fifty years. Contrast this with Israel whose total population was six million in 1988, but is around ten million in 2026, with 7.7 million being Jewish.

Moshe Rabbeinu wanted us to go back in history so that we could learn from our mistakes. We must do this all of the time so that past mistakes are not repeated.

One lesson that must not be ignored is the lesson of anti-Semitism. When it is there, it is real and doesn’t go away. The solution is to get out before it gets unbearable. And thankfully, we now have a homeland where all Jews are welcome. It is clearly time to come home.

Ruining Morale

The request of the tribes of Reuven, Gad, and half of Menashe, to settle on the other side of the Jordan, was not taken well by Moshe Rabbeinu.

Initially, he was shocked by such a request, and a strong reprimand would soon follow. He reminded these tribes what a devastating blow the sins of the spies was for the young Jewish nation. The spies succeeded in ruining the morale of the people. Their excitement about entering the Land of Israel, turned to fear of walking into a devastating trap.

Even though this took place nearly forty years before, the nation had not fully recovered. Moshe continued to explain that he didn’t believe the people could handle more trauma in the desert.

The most powerful accusation that Moshe made was, האחיכם יבואו למלחמה ואתם תשבו פה, “Shall your brothers go off to battle, and you will stay here?” It is so wrong to expect that others will fight the enemies of the Jewish people, in order to conquer, while they will stay on the sidelines and not participate.

This verse rings loud and clear today and it has caused a decrease in morale in Israel. We lost so many beautiful young men, who were also Torah scholars since October the seventh. Many were fathers of large families, who gave their lives defending our beloved State of Israel.

They must be held in the highest esteem, and anyone who does not see this is blind to the truth. There is nothing more holy than dying, while sanctifying the Name of G-d.

The two and a half tribes kept their promise and fought courageously. They did not shirk their responsibilities. We need unity in this country and if all citizens participated in joining the IDF, this would be the biggest step towards raising the morale and bringing unity to our people.

Holy Soldiers

Moshe Rabbeinu’s final task before his death was to make war with Midyan. They were guilty of causing the elite of Israel to sin.

This was a holy war meant to punish those who wished to weaken the Jewish people spiritually. Moshe chose one thousand soldiers from each tribe, who were free from sin. Their high spiritual level would offset the low spiritual level of Midyan.

Pinchas had an active role to play in this battle. He became the כהן משוח מלחמה, the Kohein anointed for battle. It was his job to encourage the army of the righteousness of their mission, and how they were fighting Hashem’s battle.

Pinchas took the holy vessels of the Mishkan with him. The Holy Ark and the garments of the High Priest, helped to subdue the enemy.

There was not even one casualty in this particular war against Midyan. The sanctity of the soldiers and the righteousness of the cause, allowed Hashem to guide them to victory. They succeeded in eliminating all of the impurities that had infiltrated the Jewish camp.

In our time, we are witnessing the devotion and determination of the holy soldiers of the IDF. They go off to battle, with prayers on their lips. They understand the sanctity of their mission. They are defending the Jewish people and the Jewish homeland. They are sanctifying the Name of G-d.

They are teaching the world that the G-d of Israel has not forsaken us, and He fights our battles with our soldiers.

We must acknowledge daily the bravery and courage of our young soldiers. All of Israel and all Jews around the world, owe them a debt of gratitude. Just as it was in Moshe’s time, sanctity and purity is returning to the House of Israel.

Making Vows

The beginning of Parshat Matot, speaks about making vows and their nullification. Generally, the Halacha is opposed to making vows.

Often people make vows in anger, which they later regret. There is a mechanism where it is possible to have vows nullified. This is called “Hatarat Nedarim.” It is based on the idea that the individual declares in front of the Beit Din, “Had I known the ramifications of such a vow, I never would have made it.”

The Alshich points that if one makes a vow with the intent of overcoming his Yeitzer Hara, evil inclination, such a vow is permitted. He understands his own weaknesses and needs the vow to help him. This could be why the Nazir makes his vow which forces him to distance himself from drinking wine. Alcoholic beverages can cause a person to sin.

Vows can be made to help overcome character flaws as well. He might have a problem with anger management and he vows that every time he gets angry, he will give a significant sum to charity.

In general, we learn how to fulfill the verse, מוצא שפתיך תשמור, that one should guard his lips from saying inappropriate things. Speech can be so damaging and we must be careful how we use speech in the right way.

We must be careful with vows and be careful to speak in a proper and dignified manner.

Why We Pray

The Talmud in Masechet Berachot teaches the concept that תפילה במקום קרבן, that prayers take the place of sacrifices. Just as there is a commandment to offer the daily “Tamid” sacrifice morning and evening, so must we pray every morning and evening.

The Tamid was there to remind us of our priorities. Our first thought when we begin each day, is to serve Hashem, by praying to him. Similarly, as the day comes to a close, we also acknowledge our complete dependence upon Him. Every day of the year, two sheep that were one year old were offered in the Temple, one in the morning and one in the evening. This became our anchor as we dealt with our daily activities. We offer a public sacrifice to Hashem, to affirm that He is running the world.

On Shabbat and festivals, there is an an additional sacrifice known as the “Mussaf” sacrifice. This is why we have an additional prayer on these special days, called the Mussaf prayer.

Prayers took on a greater role of importance, once the Temple was destroyed. The Men of the Great Assembly addressed this issue even before the second Temple was built. The majority of the Jewish people were living outside of Israel during the Second Temple period.

A formal Siddur and prayer service was established to satisfy the need to pray in place of sacrifices. This was one of the great contributions of the Men of the Great Assembly. This helped keep the Jewish people connected no matter how far away they were geographically from Eretz Yisrael.

Laws of Inheritance

The 400th Mitzva in the Torah according to Sefer Hachinuch, is the positive commandment related to inheritance. There are specific laws that must be observed as to how one must leave his estate to his family.

The Torah discussed the division of the Land of Israel to the various tribes according to their population. A lottery was made designating where each tribe would receive their designated portion.

The daughters of Tzlofchad presented Moshe Rabbeinu the problem that existed if one only had daughters and no sons. It would not be fair that there would be prejudice against them.

As a result, Hashem was consulted, and He clarified the rules of inheritance. The son and his descendants would be the primary heirs, with the first born son getting a double portion. If there were no sons, the daughters would be next in line. This was followed by paternal brothers.

The details of these laws applied after death, when the deceased was left with assets. The accepted practice today is that a separate agreement is drawn up where all of the assets are given as a gift that takes place before death. This would bypass the Torah obligations that might otherwise create internal strife within a family.

It is important to be aware that this Torah law exists and needs to be followed. This is especially true for one who is leaving this world. We want our loved ones to depart with a clean slate of meticulous observance of the Torah.

Moshe’s Successor

When Moshe was told that it was time for him to die, he was shown the Land of Israel and its unique spiritual side. He could not leave this world without knowing that a proper successor was chosen to replace him.

He told Hashem that He needed to choose a courageous leader, who would lead Israel in battle. He needed to be a person of great spirit, who would be able to tolerate the various personality types in Israel.

He needed to be holy enough to be worthy of consulting the Urim and Tumim on the breastplate of Elazar, the new High Priest.

Yehoshua was chosen for the task and possessed all of the qualities that Moshe was seeking.

There are commentators who believed that Yehoshua was chosen mostly because of his loyalty to Moshe.

There is a Midrash that says that Yehoshua was the first one to arrive each morning to set up the benches for Moshe’s Yeshiva. Some mocked him for doing such menial tasks. There was nothing beneath Yehoshua in faithfully serving his Rebbe.

This incident is to teach us how important this trait of loyalty really is. This is the trait that will ultimately yield the greatest reward. You may not become the leader of Israel because of your loyalty. But ultimately, it will produce great respect between you and your spouse and your children, and all with whom you have contact. Loyalty is a very special and noble character trait.

Midyan and Not Moav

The last task given to Moshe Rabbeinu was to make war with Midyan to take revenge for causing the Jewish people to sin.

The question was asked as to why they were only meant to fight against Midyan and it does not mention Moav. They also caused Israel to sin.

The Alshich claimed that Moav was not punished because of the merits of Ruth, who came from Moav. She was also a princess who chose to embrace Judaism rather than live a life of luxury.

A second reason given was that the Moabites were much primitive than the Midyanites. They went after the commoners rather than the elite. Midyan was punished because they caused the elite of Israel to sin with idol worship and promiscuous behavior.

It also demonstrated the extent as to how much they hated the Jewish people. They were willing to defile their princesses as long as it meant that it would cause harm to Israel.

We have been witnessing the insane amount of money spent by Iran and the enemies of Israel, to do everything possible to destroy Israel. The elaborate tunnel system in Gaza, has cost billions and billions of dollars. The same is true in Lebanon which includes the thousands of rockets aimed at Israel. This hatred of Israel overrides the need to feed their own starving citizens.

We see that “there is nothing new under the sun.”

Midyan tried to take away our spirit and holiness as a people. Today our enemies want nothing less than our total destruction.

Moav was bad, but Midyan was far more dangerous. Moshe Rabbeinu needed to teach them a lesson. It is upon us to learn the lesson as well. Jew hatred still exists today and comes in different forms. Until Mashiach comes, this is the reality that we must face. We must stand together united, for we have no one to rely on but ourselves and the G-d of Israel.

Pinchas Elevated

The Alshich asked why the incident of Pinchas is repeated after it was already described in Parshat Balak.

He answered that the emphasis in Parshat Pinchas was to demonstrate the magnitude of the Mitzva that was done. It was to teach that when one does a Mitzva with great sincerity, he is transformed into another being. He brings great merit to himself and his entire personality is transformed. He becomes closer to holiness.

We see this from the wording of the blessings that we make. The text of the blessing is אשר קדשנו במצוותיו “that You have sanctified us with Your Mitzvot.”

Pinchas believed he was risking his life. His cousin, Chur, was killed when he tried to stop the sin of the Golden Calf. He risked his life to stop the plague that killed 24,000 people.

The Torah tells us that he took a רמח, translated as a spear. Miraculously, he thrust the spear so that he killed both Zimri of the Tribe of Shimon, and Kozbi, the Midianite princess, at the same time. The numerical value of the word רמח״” is 248, the same number of positive commandments in the Torah.

The sincerity and diligence of Pinchas in performing his Mitzva, transformed him not only to be worthy of being a Kohein, but it gave him a Divine promise that the “priesthood,” would remain with his descendants forever.

This is the lesson and reminder for us. We must observe the laws of the Torah diligently, so that we can be elevated and transformed to higher levels of holiness.

Advice From The Older Generation

The Chazon Ish describes two types of thinkers. One he describes as a more impulsive and superficial thinker. He does not think things through and give careful analysis.

The other is the one who uses his intellect and looks at things in a deeper way. He diligently seeks truth. In Hebrew, the first type is referred to as דמיון, and the second as שכל.

Specifically, the Chazon Ish was addressing a very relevant issue that is very applicable to today. He was explaining why the present generation believes that they are superior to earlier generations in their thinking and perspective.

They superficially base their theory on the remarkable inventions and technological advancements of our times. In the time of the Chazon Ish, it was the telephone, telegraph, and radio. He also mentioned the train, plane, and the ability to kill masses of people with bombs. (He died in 1953.) These were great advancements then, just as the internet and high tech is today.

The mistake people make is that they associate wisdom with inventions. And if we go back to Talmudic times, when there weren’t such inventions, it must be that they were also primitive in their thinking and views.

This is simply not true as it is possible that our ancient scholars chose not to dwell on inventing things. Perhaps they felt that delving deeply into their souls, with a sincere desire to connect with Hashem, was more important than any other endeavor.

The period of the Tannaim and Amoraim that began in the second Temple period until around 500 C.E., had unparalleled scholarship and greatness. We are taught that we cannot begin to fathom their level of sanctity and we cannot question their decisions.

Isn’t it foolish to negate their teachings solely because they were not as technologically advanced as today’s generation?

Our intellect dictates that we do need to learn from them and on a moral and ethical level, today’s generation is far inferior to previous generation. This might also explain why the younger generation does not seek the wisdom of the older generation. How could the “old guys” who are technologically challenged, have anything that they could gain from their knowledge? If people would stop being impulsive and superficial thinkers, they would wake up to a different reality.

Real Values

The Chazon Ish in his book, “Emuna and Bitachon,” attempts to teach the totality of Judaism. It is necessary to be strong in all of the areas that make up our religious observance.

We are to develop a strong relationship with Hashem, as we learn to have true Yirat Shamayim, fear of Heaven. We are to be meticulous in the observance of Jewish Law. We study the Torah with great intensity, and we work on our character development.

The Chazon Ish adds one ingredient that will truly round the individual as a true servant of G-d.

He is referring to diligence in being certain to always tell the truth. One must distance himself from all falsehood. He gave examples of our sages and how hard they worked at not saying a word of Sheker, falsehood.

Today’s educators in the religious world do not put enough emphasis on being truthful at all costs. Somehow they are teaching strict observance of the Halacha, regarding Shabbat and Kashrut and other details, without teaching that honesty and truth is the foundation for one’s belief.

Often we see the value system of young people corrupted, because this point of integrity and truthfulness is missing in their education.

Instead, the value system becomes one of “don’t get caught” rather than “do it because there is a right and a wrong.”

Perhaps there should be less emphasis on “being Frume,” and more emphasis on teaching real values of honesty and integrity.

Educating Our Children

The Talmud at the end of Masechet Yevamot, addresses the question as to how we are to educate our children.

It began with a discussion regarding a case where the keys to the Beit Midrash were lost on Shabbat. Without the keys, they were locked out. They went to Rav Pedat who suggested that children be asked to play in the area where the keys were lost.

The assumption was that if they found the keys, they could bring them back, even if it involved carrying from a public to a private domain.

The Gemara questioned this ruling and asked that if carrying the keys was allowed, it would also be allowed to feed the children non-kosher meat, because they were below Bar Mitzva age.

The Mishna Berura went into a lengthy discussion of the subject. It was determined that if a father was allowing his young children to transgress Torah laws, the Beit Din would intervene and demand that the father be more careful in educating his children.

The subject did not only include laws related to Shabbat and Kashrut, but also laws involving lying, cursing, and stealing. If firm action wasn’t taken while they were young, they might continue to transgress as adults.

The determining factor is the age of the child and his level of understanding.

There was no need to restrict with an infant or toddler, because they are too young to understand the meaning of the Mitzvot. But from the age where they begin to understand, we must be diligent in their observance of the Torah.